Dating after divorce with kids
They are dealing with their own issues of loss, betrayal, adjustment, trust- just to name a few.
Parents need to make sure before things get tricky that children understand their continued importance to them, the freedom for the child(ren) to continue a close loving relationship with the ex-spouse (despite any personal misgivings) and the possibility of new people in the parent’s life.
Be cautious not to be overly excited about dating because your teens are about to get to that stage themselves and you want to preserve the excitement and healthy conversations about dating for them.
However, you may have a child who wants to hear some simple things about how the date went and it’s okay to share that information, but beware that you’re not using your children as your best friend.
Dating after divorce can be fun and exciting, yet there are a variety of factors that can influence this experience.
Your children and your own emotions can make the idea of dating after divorce seem scary or even out of the realm of possibility.
Rather than planning a long visit, it’s best to have a brief, casual meeting with few expectations.
Another important consideration when introducing your kids to a new love interest is their age.
Some might think that they are ready to jump into dating right away, while others feel like they'll never be able to have a relationship again.
It’s important to send some key messages in that conversation: I’m taking this dating thing slow, I’ll typically date in a way that will not take away from our time together as a family, you’ll be the first to know if I ever develop any genuine feelings for anyone.