Not interested in dating you


12-Oct-2017 14:07

If any of the following signs of disinterest are in your relationship, I’d take a parachute and jump because all 30 of these either on their own or joined up with others, make for an unhealthy partnering.

You They’d like you to ‘go with the flow’ even if there is nothing flowing, and to expect nothing beyond this. The relationship doesn’t progress – it goes in fits and starts, stalls, or goes into reverse. They tend to be around/call you up when they want something. They create drama in the hope that you’ll take the hint that they’re not interested and end it, so that they can be let off the hook 13.

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I know she’s not interested in hooking up with other guys, we see each other regularly enough (one a week or so) and when we’re together it’s nice, but there’s no feeling of exclusivity or dependency. The girl starts becoming attached to me, missing me and wanting to become more “official”.

I’m not looking for that and when that starts coming up, I scale my presence in her life back considerably – I don’t want things to turn into a relationship and therefore I withdraw. I’ve pushed her away and now I’m going to lose her. my goal being that I’d like to return to “stasis” – that perfect sweet spot of comfortable company and sexual satisfaction without having to tie myself down to any relationship.

And in my short life, there are few things I’ve picked up when it comes to relationship dynamics.

I’ve spent a lot of time around people of that culture to learn a thing or ten.Cue trying to prove ourselves, seeking validation and attempting to avoid rejection.



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